I've been going through quite a bit of psychological/physiological clearing for the last year. Aside from work, I've been mainly living like a monk. I've been watching my food/supplements looking for optimal health, exercising pushing in more prana into uncharterered territories, read/watched mainly esoteric material as I find myself gravitating away from material I had once found fascinating, and have meditated my emotional ass off where emotional crap just flows down my grounding cord leaving me two belt knotches smaller (a feat of which two years of exercising/diet couldn't accomplish).
I grew up in a protestant elementary school, where we were taught the whole "judge not lest ye be judged". (Matthew 7:1). However, give the followers of this creed any issue from women's rights to other religions and you're left with massive judgment. Another words, this was not a "turn the other cheek" crowd. (Matthew 5:39). This was a crowd who felt all others should hold the same opinion, but done from the fear that those who do not hold such opinions will be condemned to hell (Dante's fiery Hell that is).
My friend's comment was based on a quote derived from Matt Kahn who stated that you will attract what you judge. Provided that the law of manifestation (attraction) expresses that you manifest what is being held in your emotional body, if we spend our time judging with condemnation, then that should manifest based on the emotions we associate with such judgment. Better stated, next time you're judging someone or something, take note of your emotions and how that feels for you. If you walk around in that emotional state, or should I say "attached" to it (karma), guess what you're going to manifest.
However, much like how noticing a thought in mindfulness meditation is actually a first step, since you realize you are something beyond that thought and not tied to it, the same applies with judgment where recognizing that you are judging is great first step. In this recognizing, you're disassociating your Self from the circumstance, where you are capable of seeing your ego body that is doing the judging in a third party perspective. Given that the goal is to not manifest that particular emotional attachment, we have to negate that emotional vibration and move into a higher emotional sensation.
Nonetheless, we've been taught by pretty much almost all teachers that judgment is bad. So as soon as we start to judge ourselves for judging others, we tend to beat our own selves down since we've been given the definition that it is bad. Much again like mindfulness meditation, how many people beat themselves down for having a thought? Move this beyond judging others, we also tend to overly judge ourselves based on the collective societal belief system bombarded on us. For example, we all probably judge our physical body based on the numerous media outlets depicting its ideal version of beauty. So the key is to forgive ourselves for judging others, for judging ourselves, and then send love to those aspects of ourselves and know that it's okay if judgment happens again. We're a work in progress. The goal is to transcend judgment, not overcome or fight it since those situations still leave a form of desire.
Understanding the importance of your emotional body and the ability to manifest what you attach to it (karma), that makes you think of how religion has been propounded at least since the fall of Sumer/Indus. For were we not taught to feel guilty for our "sins", or live in a society where punishment is more to harm than heal. In teaching a hell, or instigating fear as our news media consistently vomits, are we not moving the audience to have disruptive emotional bodies where they manifest thereof?
Rather than judge and punish, it's time to send love to those aspects of others and ourselves and understand that we are collectively creating these shifts out of our lower emotional sensations. Once we've done that, then will we still need/want to judge, condemn, etc.? It's time to transcend and manifest a new "reality", one where judgment is solely a tool to assess our decisions based on our emotional body.
Overly educated and continuously exploring and revealing more behind the veil.
"It cannot be too highly emphasized that the mystic swims in the same waters in which the psychotic drowns."
-James Wasserman, The Mystery Traditions